not saying anything
Last night I traveled, by something other than magic, up to Oakland to be part of a Zen Koan conversation. Think of this sixties happening – a “Be-In.” Just show up and be there. I show up to “be” there nearly every Wednesday night. I never understand what’s being said. Last night’s Koan went like…
barefoot summer
Yesterday someone said they’d been encouraged to sit – it could be meditation – in their bare feet for five minutes. To come in closer contact with the Earth, kind of regardless of the medium on which the bare feet rested. She said she was going to try it. Being more and more open to…
magical thinking redux
Yesterday’s Blog post mentioned magical thinking. I’d like to riff on it just a bit more. If you want to be all serious and technical and properly realistic, I suppose, the term “magical thinking” belongs squarely in the realm of mental health. Or, better said, an example of a problem with mental health. The kind…
this symptom
I read a line in a book this morning which said this – “We don’t heal our symptoms; our symptoms heal us.” Quoting this here isn’t me being all heavy or philosophical or esoteric. Trust me. The ability to think deeply intellectually about this or that continues to depart. Something like this line from one…
in lieu of dry
Pouring down San Diego rains preclude the morning walk. What’s a kid to do? Begin dancing – fool! So’s I did. There’s me, gray light through the window, lit-less room, swaying, praying, just saying. Sashaying on the carpet to Major Lance’s “Monkey Time”; “Sneakin’ Sally Through the Alley” with Robert Palmer; and the Beach Boys…
lighter fluid
I had very little sleep last night, though I don’t feel especially tired right now. I crawled into bed just after 8:30, and continued to lay there entirely awake as the phone told me Monday had slipped into Tuesday. My alarm was already set for 2:59, and when it sounded I got up to begin…
Provincetown
Something had me take Mary Oliver’s “Red Bird” book of poetry off the bookcase shelf Friday, and I got around to opening and reading from it this morning. Her poem “Sometimes” has this as its fourth stanza: “Instructions for living a life: Pay attention. Be astonished. Tell about it.” When I was the Housing Director…
swirling
I received a call later last night from a mom farther away than I’d like to drive, asking if I might possibly want to work with her kid, as something of a life support, deal with his issues – “You’ve got issues, kid – kindly and with clarity as a helper. Join the team –…
old cape cod
You and me and rain on the roof. I saw the ‘Lovin’ Spoonful’ once, a zillion years ago, at a place called “The Surf” in Hyannis, Massachusetts, which is perhaps the most “city-like” town on Cape Cod. At least I think I did. I think they played with ‘The Byrds’ too, and another sweet group…
everyone knows it’s Windy
Let’s see. Windy, windy, windy morning walk, bundled up and eyes wide alert for flying palm fronds. Sweet, sweet San Diego (riff on Rocky Horror). Ran into Diego – “Hola mi amigo.” It rained, then the sun shone. Meanwhile, back here in the room, laying on the floor with wicked long stretches, dancing around with…
in progress
Sunday morning I made something of a decision to try and live the coming seven days experientially more through my body, less through my mind. Maybe I could put it like this — feel more and think less. Which points in the right direction, but is not truly accurate. It seems, to this ancient mind,…
this morning
Heard yesterday: “The silence just spreads out, and we belong.” Just that, this morning.
a week of questions – Five
Here’s today’s question – Who wants to read a post from November of ’21? Dredged up from the archives, cause yesterday I had something of a rebound connection with the agency about which this post was originally written. Here you are: The Dignity of Risk I don’t believe I’ve ever heard those three words put…
a week of questions – Four
It’s funny. How little nudges in my life have sent me down this path or that one. Through this thrown-open window, slipping out that cracked-open door. Sometimes these little nudges – maybe a better word is caresses – sometimes they’ve been the usher into a new, upside-down world from the one a week ago; a…
a week of questions – Three
The other day, someone asked me why I was trying to learn a conversational level of Spanish at this time – Saint Luke’s Hospital in New Bedford, MA birth certificate says 74 – in my life. I answered that there is some sense of honoring for me, honoring folks whose primary language is Spanish with…
a week of questions – Two
Well, this is awfully late to post here in couch surfing, and some of it’s all-day don’t no what to say, some is plain old forgetting – why, shut your mouth, insolent child, forget the Blog? Lordy – and some is a nearly two-hour visit here with the barista next door named Daniel (formally and…
a week of questions – One
When James Brown sings, “Get up offa that thing and dance ’til you feel better,” I wonder what’s “that thing” he’s talking about? A chair? A pogo stick? Self-pity? A Joshua tree? The nest of seven spiders? A self-diagnosis? A yoga mat? My favorite blue recliner? Spilled milk? The place of lack? Yesterday, in the…
a good start
It’s 8:24 in the morning, a sunny Wednesday here in San Diego. I’ve gone from mostly empty-minded – not a bad place – to assuming the role of reporter. Here’s the report: Got up at 4:05 with the alarm, sat zazen (meditation’s just sitting) two times, back to back, 19 minutes each. Made and drank…
any diagnosis will do
I need money. It’s a Zen statement. The sky is blue. Birds fly. Rivers are long. I need money. On a very arduous walk yesterday afternoon, the purpose of which, beyond the joy and goodness of righteous exercise, was hopefully sweep decades of cobwebs out from my mind, the thought came to me that perhaps…
songs
Early, early this morning three songs came lollygagging into my head – “Does Anybody Really Know What Time It Is?” by Chicago; “Waterfront” by Simple Minds; and “Lose This Skin” by The Clash. Stuff like that happens and I wonder about, maybe, a metaphor for the day, or something. I went on my morning walk…
who flies?
I was thinking about the old TV show Kung Fu with David Carradine and his Master Fu Manchu kind of guy, who always prefaced his thoughts by calling Carradine “Grasshopper.” I liked that, and every once in a while through these decades it’s come back and I’ve called someone, like a group-home kid I was…
the magic of my Morning Pages
In 2011, having just quit the last job with its (the quitting) inherent vow of poverty – Social Security – I bought a used copy of Julia Cameron’s “The Artist’s Way” on Ebay. It was cheap, and it changed my life. The book’s something of a 12-week ‘course’, with two primary suggestions – take yourself…
today’s watching me
Most mornings when I ask for help to be wide open to the offers from that day, I don’t say “all the offers.” I was thinking about it a while ago, and wondering if leaving the “all” word out is some kind of conditionality. Something like leaving the back door ajar. Like some escape route…
try me
At the tail end of a pajama party Sunday morning I wrote in a steno pad, “Buy James Brown’s Greatest Hits”. An hour later, walking back into this room, I went right to the computer, opened Amazon, and did just that. Ten bucks. The CD was delivered amidst squalls in the rains of yesterday. I…
blogging as an open invitation
I’d say daily blogging – Mondays through Fridays – has changed my life. It was a spontaneous thing, back January 22, 2021, to show up at this space every weekday going forward and try to write engagingly, and with some reward for the reader, how I was that day – what I called just over…
long ago, far away
I began writing, yes I did, all the way back to a column in the high school newspaper. On to a college paper, stumbling into high school sports stringing on both coasts. Off and on Blogs – this one more than four years now. Even writing for work: grant proposal stuff, treatment and service plans,…
hocus pocus
While writing my Morning Pages earlier – having a bit of an unexpected come-to-Jesus meeting with myself – it came to me that, regarding my painting and drawing and neither going on, I have been giving nearly all my energy to why those beloved acts can’t and aren’t happening, instead of giving that energy to…
oh my head
Coming off Fern Street and down Date, I heard the tweet of a hummingbird above. I stopped and looked up and there wasn’t a hummingbird in sight – little magicians, here and gone. There was, though, a small hawk sitting among bare branches about 10 feet up. I said out loud, “Oh my head,” which…
all this
I guess if I’m going to pick a song for this day it’s gonna be “Everyday People” – Sly and the Family Stone. All these years. All this music.
lately, there’s been lots
Last Friday morning my long-time friend Gay in Amesbury, Massachusetts messaged me to let me know Kevin Lawless had passed away. He was living in Florida. He was 73. I met Kevin in 1975 or ’76, somewhere in the miasma of youth-serving agencies north of Boston. I became a co-worker at the Tri-Town Council for…
happy to see
My almost always route for my morning walk is to go over to 28th – there’s the Starbucks at 28th and B – turn north and walk past Ash and Birch and take a right onto Cedar. Over a block and another left, north on Granada, which sends me on my way uphill a long…
expressway to my heart
I woke yesterday with this strange mark on my left forearm. Significant in size, it immediately made me think of the silhouette of a sitting cat. A few moments later I saw the silhouette of a sitting rat. Cats, rats…silhouettes and mysteries. I didn’t and don’t remember banging my arm in a way to cause…
Friday characters
My pal Milky Dent called me very early today. Before most of my morning things. Well before hummingbirds welcomed me to the awakening walk. He said, “I have a thought for you.” I asked, “What is it?” He said, “Being old is a disguise.” I thought I heard him chuckling softly as he hung up…
offers
Walking the talk is an interesting process. Isn’t it? Lately, maybe the last six to eight weeks, I’ve been adding this request to the morning on-my-knees prayers – “Please help me be wide open to the offers from this day.” All of them. As the Zen Koan says, “The Great Way is not difficult when…
esta cancion
I could see my breath on my walk this morning. There were puddles in the street, here and there, leftovers from all yesterday’s rain. The plants, flowers, and trees were exalting in their watered-attention. It’s real easy to see, here in the seaside desert, when thirsty is the usual presentation. We’ve had a lot of…
practice
I would just like to say that as I walk through this world I hold the belief that things are fixable. Pretty much everything. It used to make me crazy, seeing suffering and basic lack of decency and respect, when small changes could and would change everything. It’s like, let’s honor peoples’ lives – really…
it’s a Monday
It’s a Monday, and I write and post posts here in the Blog weekdays, Mondays through Fridays, every week. In fact since back in January of 2021 through last Friday – every day, every week. Some of you reading here now have been along for much, if not all of that ride. I’m grateful. A…
it’s got a good beat
I spent some time with folks in Oakland last night – the marvel of electrics and photons and stuff – and the theme of the conversation was to make your mind a question mark. Kind of like, be the question mark. Hmmm. What do you do with that? For me, I threw open the windows…
I dandelion
Be clear! I only know this because someone told me. At Alcoholics Anonymous meetings on the East Coast, when someone speaks to the group, they are thanked for sharing. In those same meetings on the West Coast, they are thanked for their share. Verbs and nouns. Nouns and verbs. I lean toward verbs. Now, the…
I’m all ears
One of my 2023 New Year Resolutions I was talking about yesterday has to do with better listening. Listen better. Listen with more devotion to really hearing. Every day this year. As this “listen better” has been some kind of awareness calling out for my attention for quite a while, the way I’ve been thinking…
this year
This Blog – couchsurfingat70 – got its start sometime in 2018. In January of 2021, the 22nd to be specific, the commitment to post every weekday, Monday through Friday, fell out onto this page, and I’m happy to say that’s the way it’s gone. No missed days. Now, here’s another year, and I’m especially happy…
chain of cool fools
Maybe you know Paul Simon’s song “Me and Julio Down by the Schoolyard.” I mentioned it in yesterday’s Blog post. The schoolyard’s become a favorite place in these latter years of my life – as metaphor primarily, on occasion as solid ground with swings and seesaws when I get there – and I’m always dragging…
swords of color
Right outside my window I see bird-of-paradise flowers. Some withered, past their glowing prime. Others right there, in full glorious bloom – bright orange, with blue runners, a hint of red on the green sheath. Then there are those birds not yet ready to fly, formed with all that joyful promise, and waiting. Waiting for…
who’s advertising?
My disease slipped out of the corner yesterday and came close by me. It did not whisper, the way it likes to do. It spoke clearly – “Maybe you should start drinking again. People liked you better then.” Actually, I wasn’t particularly surprised. The last week or so I’ve been spending a whole bunch of…
thoughts (memo to myself)
Here’s a thought this Tuesday morning – Don’t bother the traffic. Here’s another – Ear plugs are jewelry. And, I’ve been carrying this around – ‘Each branch of coral holds up the moon.’
pier dreams
I hope these holidays – the ones which count most for you – have been friendly and loving. The song says “It’s the most wonderful time of the year.” Hoping that’s how it feels. My Christmas day yesterday was the most wonderful time for me. Very special, friendly and loving. Some of the Christmas hours…
gifts
Merry Christmas to everyone, joyous holidays celebrating within you. Thanks for sharing this space with me. It’s a gift.
still waiting
This is the deal. I woke up and got out of bed at 2:53 this morning. Sliding out of bed seemed slightly better – more wonderful even – than staying under the warm comforters. All of a sudden my day became stretched by more than an hour and a half. Not exactly alchemy – but…
do dragons smile?
Well, this is a particularly interesting Wednesday morning. I do not have a clue how this day will go. I’ll try to bring my best attention to each of its moments. Not taking any of them for granted.